Hurtful words …

Good Morning everybody !!!

I have wrote in another blog about hurtful words, however, that is something that we all struggle with. So I am going to repost this.

I know we have all been there, the pain of hurtful words. How are we suppose to just get over it? What are we suppose to feel? What if these words come from the very people that we love and that are suppose to love us? I know I feel like I am the one groping around in the dark with my feelings attached to my feet, stomping on them every time I take a step, or every time my heart takes a beat it is being stabbed by the biggest and dullest knife they make. It hurts, and there is just no way to take back words once they are spoken into existence.

We are suppose to forgive others, even those that say hurtful things to us and about us. We are to continue to live, to pick up the pieces, and to carry on. We are to put one foot in front of the other and keep walking. This is where I have to pick up my pieces and hand them to my Heavenly Father and just tell him to fix it. I can’t, I can barely breathe. I have always heard that we can’t control other people’s words, we can only control our thoughts and the way we react to their words. We are to have self-control. Self-control is a trait of a spiritually mature person, someone that lacks self-control will be quick to retaliate with more hurtful words. After years of being abused, first as a child then as an adult in an abusive marriage, I spent many years in therapy. I had to reprogram my way of thinking. I had to learn not to let other people’s words define who I was as a person. When I accepted Christ into my life I learned who I really was, not who the world said I was.

1. I am a child of God.
For now we are all children of God through faith in Jesus Christ (Gal. 3:26 TLB)

2. I am forgiven
He personally carried the load of our sins in his own body when he died on the cross so that we can be finished with sin and live a good life from now on. For his wounds have healed ours! (1 Peter 2:24 TLB)

3. I am washed clean
Come, let’s talk this over, says the Lord; no matter how deep the stain of your sins, I can take it out and make you as clean as freshly fallen snow. Even if you are stained as red as crimson, I can make you white as wool! (Isaiah 1:18 TLB)

4. I am free
So Christ has made us free…. (Gal.5:1 TLB)

5. We are co-heirs with Christ
And since we are his children, we will share his treasures—for all God gives to his Son Jesus is now ours too. But if we are to share his glory, we must also share his suffering. (Romans 8:7 TLB)

6. I am wonderfully made.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! (Psalms 139:14 TLB)

7. I am never alone
“Don’t be afraid, for the Lord will go before you and will be with you; he will not fail nor forsake you.”( Deuteronomy 31:8 TLB)

It’s ok to cry. To feel the hurt, but we can’t stay in that hurt place. We have to forgive the one’s that said hurtful things, give the pain to God, and move on with the things that God has called us to do. The pain is all apart of being human.